She is mine not yours.

Parenting is not for the faint-hearted. Ayra is only two and half plus plus and already I feel that my heart is battle-worn ready to collapse at any minute from the multiple heartbreaks, torn out chest, fall from the balcony moments.

The thing is most of the time I still feel that am still learning all this motherhood stuff and haven't quite gotten round or successfully mastering anything. I'am still that rookie mama looking and twitching nervously at all the master mom's in the changing room managing not one but sometimes three screaming toddlers at the same time. * such respect tabik spring* 

Its not easy, Ayra is my toughest assignment to date, and sometimes I fall on my knees trying to manage everything.

SO.

Moms who are really anal annoy me. Excuse the language. You know the ones who just love to compare their children with yours. I notice this happens a lot especially within the malay community.  I'll give you some examples :

annoyingmommaspecimenone: (mulakan dengan pujian supaya tak nampak niat yang sebenarnya nak menunjuk) Comelnya anak uuu. dah berapa tahun?

meunsuspectingvictim :) ( senyum sebab tatau soalan seterusnya) thanks. Dia dua tahun setengah.

annoyingmommaspecimenone: ohhh dia still mumble ye? tak reti cakap betul betul lagi? (haaa ni dah dapat agak dah niat sebenar) :P

meunsuspectingvictim: err ( tgh fikir macam mana nak respond saya memang slow skit bab bab macam ni) ya tapi ok lah I faham apa dia cakap.

annoyingmommaspecimenone: my daughter ni umur setahun lebih dah pandai cakap, sebab I rajin cakap dengan dia tak 'babytalk' langsung u pun kena buat macam ni beli video macam ni baca doa macam ni bla bla bla (pendek kata buat semua mcam dia buat!) 

meunsuspectingvictim: eh sorry I have to take this phone call ( cara escape saya yang paling famous bila dah tak tahan) pastu grab Ayra sekali sambil pretend nak gi toilet :P

ANNOYING. ok another example:

Ayra: screaming her lungs out at a social function

anotherannoymom: hemm ni mesti sebab dia tak duduk nursery kan tak biasa dengan orang. 

me: Ayra don't cry pleaseeeeeeee ( in between trying to calm her down and not look like a serial kidnapper and trying to not hit annoying mum with my large handbag) 

anotherannoymom: my anak dari dulu I suruh dia duduk nursery pastu I stopped work to look after her, ajar dia ikut kehendak I so dia biasa dah dengan orang tengok dia ok je. kesian anak u, u kena train dia kalau tak susahhhhh.

me: kau ni tak nampak ke am trying to calm my daughter down, feed her at the same time, pastu kau nak bebel bebel ni apsal belasah kang baru tau (tapi ni semua cakap dalam hati je :P) 

ANNOYING. because I always look at other mom's with a lot of respect, as I feel raising a child is a challenge, so I do not question how a child is brought up by their parents as we all have our own ways and what we feel is best for our children, who is to say that your way is more superior than mine? We adapt. I do not try to shove my opinions down other's people's or mom's throat. SO please I might have zero-parenting skills but I'll learn and for the time being just give me the space to just be.

I have never been the competitive type EVER in my life. SO if u need to feel more superior u picked the wrong victim honey. 


I'll love my daughter no matter what. I'll let her learn at her own pace. I will not care if she is left behind in certain things. I do not care if she doesnt structure her sentences properly. I will let her play games and run around and make a mess and bang on pots and pans. I will let her be silly or weird. I will let her be herself and not what a baby book or commercial or overzealous moms tell me how she should be, because I will love her in my own terms, because she is mine and not yours.